When the honeymoon is over...

I posted on a message board today about when you feel like the 'honeymoon' is over in a marriage. Not always a bad thing, but I feel like we are in a rut. I have also heard that these years of a marriage (5-6) are sometimes the hardest. We just kind of co-habitate, like roommates for the most part. Sometimes the comfort of the structure and routine is all I need to get me through. But I do miss the spark, the energy, the profound feeling of lust and love.

Someone responded with this:
"The honeymoon ended???? DH and I have been togther 20 years/married 18. The communication is the key. Phases come and go - being a couple , being a couple with babies - then school aged kiddos - now teenagers and looking forward to being a couple with an empty nest.... We have had wonderful years, long years and even one year were we weren't sure we wanted to be a couple anymore... communication of honest needs got us thru. Enjoy the journey - its not where you go - its who goes with you. "

I need to get to that place in my own head I guess. Someone send me a map, please!